how many times have we been through this – we get an idea, we love the idea, we tell the people around us, and we get shot down brutally.
being told that it’s never going to work, that’s it’s a bad idea, that we don’t have the skills / money / time / connections / courage to do it.
that we should forget about it. be happy with what we have. appreciate our lives as is. our positivity met with the loudest negativity. and all of our energy and enthusiasm just seeps out of us and trickles down the drain. gone.
i got tired of this phenomenon ages ago. so i decided to put the negative commentators on mute, and trust my own gut, my own voice, my own mind instead. i crank up the volume of my own courage. and shut off the rest.
because otherwise – we’re not going anywhere.
i have decided that my life is going to be just that – mine. and i’m going for it, trying to build it into something that i’m excited about. but you know how it is, the more energy and enthusiasm you have, the more people are going to try to bring you down. it’s strange how we think that keeping someone down will make us feel better about our own lives. like as long as we’ve all given up, it’s ok.
it’s all about getting skilled in differentiating good advice and care, from envy and putting someone down.
luckily, once you start to notice the energy-eaters, they’re kind of easy to ignore. to shut off, to mute.
as long as the volume of your own mind is high enough – their opinions and pessimism will simply become background noise.
so you go ahead and sing your heart out. and surround yourself with other singers. there are plenty of them out there.
i’ve probably been the one doing the pessimistic putting down from time to time too in my life. i never want to do that to another person – or to myself – ever again.
the most helpful way to deal with envy i’ve found, is to turn it into inspiration. read more about getting over envy here.
love // jenny
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